No matter how much you love your children, you can never keep them from the bitter and sour experiences of life. From the moment you release them to the world, nature and nurture present challenges of different magnitude.
That is why many parents keep researching on ways to boost their children’s confidence. They know that if their children are confident, they can face any challenge without losing hope and consequently giving up on life
Studies indicate that building resilience is one of the fundamental principles of enhancing confidence and high self esteem. Resilience can simply be defined as the ability to rise again when life puts you down.
Responsible parents desire to see their children overcome difficult situations without getting into irresponsible activities like drugs and prostitution. However, teaching your child how to be tough is not easy. This article highlights the threats you are likely to face in the process of building resilience in your children.
You cannot avoid stress, and sometimes a little pressure helps us achieve our goals. However, you already know that too much stress is detrimental to your health. Your children can also go through very stressful ordeals like loss and sickness.
In such circumstances, it could be hard to train them to be resilient because one way of building resilience is by training your kids how to think of solutions to everyday problems-commonly known as the executive function of the brain.
However, how do you train them to find solutions to things like death? If you too are always stressed, how do you teach them to avoid it? Stressed people are less resilient because they do not think clearly.
So, you need to make sure that you can manage your stress levels, as a parent or teacher, so that you are attentive to your kid’s needs. If you cannot handle it, seek medical attention.
Like stress, either the children or the parents could be suffering addiction. If you or your child is an addict, then you know very well that you turn to your substance of abuse whenever you face challenges.
You need to be sober for you to notice the way your kids react to adversity since that is how you test their resilience levels. You must be attentive and observant. They too have to be sober to find amicable solutions to their issues, and to practice what you teach them.
Addiction ruins both the physical and cognitive ability, and that makes it the number one threat to self confidence. Luckily, it is an ordinary phenomenon in our society today so it is easy to find professional help.
- Restrained relationships
There is no need to explain the effect of an absentee parent to a child’s life. Nevertheless, it is possible to be present physically but uninvolved. Studies show that a good percentage of today’s young people are grown up but not brought up.
Restrained relationships are a threat to building self confidence, resilient and personal disciplined. All children have different ways of responding to stressful situations so parents need to deliberately bond with each child.
If you create a distance between the two of you, a lot might escape your attention. In addition, beware of replacing love with gifts. Nothing and no one can replace you in your child’s life.
- Low self esteem
This point is tied to the other three. If you suffer from poor self esteem as a parent, you will find it hard to raise the esteem of your children. Look at the way you solve issues in your life. For instance, are you the kind of person that keeps fighting with other people?
If you think that fighting is a solution that is what you are likely to instill in your kinds. They also will be watching the way to bounce back from challenges and do the same. Children are the world’s best imitators.
Therefore work on your esteem as you raise them. Do not confuse having high self esteem with being a perfectionist. Studies indicate that nobody has perfect esteem. Life shakes our confidence and self image at one time or the other.
No one is genetically wired for resilience, thus it is possible to boost it at any age. Building resilience is not a one day job. In addition, you cannot predict what the future has in store for you and your family. Hence, do not be too hard on yourself or on your kids. You will make it.